Mental Health Awareness Month - Let's Break The Silence & The Stigma

Mental Health Awareness Month Is Here!

As we are stepping away from child abuse/sexual awareness month, and placing our feet firmly into Mental Health Awareness Month, we are continually reminded that we still have a very long way too go! There are many things going on in our world right now that are affecting everyone’s mental health, especially our youth.

Mental Health and Child Safety go hand in hand and we must find balance in how our children are cared for all over the world.    As adults we must be proactive in caring for our overall mental health.     It is the moral responsibility to do so, because our thoughts and actions affect all that are involved in our daily circle of life.

As a young girl growing up, my mother suffered from severe mental illness, which was quite a complex mixture of depression, mania, psychosis and grief from the loss of my brother.   She also suffered from diabetes and a thyroid condition.   This combination of mental and physical diseases fought against one another for years as she battled it all ferociously.  

Many times, she was misdiagnosed because she was such a complex case.   You can imagine the chaos that was going on inside of her body and mind.    Unfortunately, there were limitations and lack of knowledge at this time in our lives (the 1970’s era), and mental illness in general was frowned upon.     You just didn’t talk about it, which further complicated my mother’s conditions.

The question that I always ask is this --- 

“When a parent or guardian is mentally struggling without proper support, who helps the child”?   This is a daunting question!

Long story short my mother fell through the cracks of a flawed and limited support system and I fell with her.   My mother’s instabilities opened me up as prey because my mother was making very poor decisions.  She allowed many strangers in our home from all walks of life.   

During her times of mania, she felt like she could conquer the world, and in times of what she called “the great depression” she was like a lead balloon basking in deflated air.  You can imagine what all of this dysfunction did to me as a child, and as time when on I was subjected to mental, emotional, physical and sexual abuse (sexual abuse was by another source).   

Because of the lack of care and support my mother’s mental illness festered to the ultimate levels and she unknowingly brought a perpetrator right into our home and basically offered me up to him.   I was a 12-year-old little girl already damaged by my traumatic home life, and this was the icing on the cake.    The abuse I endured was horrendous and the daily battle was excruciating.

I am sharing all of this, not to put my mother down or mental illness down, but to show people what happens when someone who is struggling from this disease and does not get the help that they so deserve; bad things can and do happen. The repercussions of “lack of support”, travel on through a whole family!

We need to continue to advocate for mental health and break the stigma of silence.   I say this so many times “Silence can be deadly”!!   It is not just a physical death; it is an emotional death.

Mental Health struggles comes in many forms.  WE say mental illness but that is a broad term.  There are countless people young and old struggling from PTSD (due to trauma/abuse/combat), depression (chemical imbalance), mania, psychosis, schizophrenia, anxiety, suicide ideation, etc.   The list goes on as there are many different components, terms, diagnosis’s and physical health factors that can play into this whole equation.

The best defense that we have to combat this problem is to talk about it, learn about it, and be proactive about it!   This is why I say mental health and child safety go hand in hand because I was on the latter end of this problem.   I suffered tremendously because of lack of knowledge!

I have struggled with my own mental health issues due to the abuse that I endured.  It has taken me years to sift through the ashes and deal with the rubble of my past to clear the air and my mind.    I do not wish this battle on my worst enemy because the pain and suffering can be unbearable at times, and far too many people get sucked up into that sadness, and do not make it out alive!

I am one of the lucky ones, and I am so grateful! Now, I can stand here today stating my case because of all the work that I put in.   The healing journey is a long treacherous road of countless up hill battles, but the most worthy battle that you will ever face in our life!   I also believe I am here for a reason and that is to raise awareness, educate and share my personal experience with all of you, so that maybe one day more children will be saved from this horror and more people who struggle with mental health issues are acknowledged and helped.

We can do great things together if we can support one another along the way.   I ask you to take the time and educate yourself on mental health issues and learn how to get beyond the stigmas.

I ask you to STAND WITH ME, as we raise awareness together.

If you decide to read my personal story The Unspoken Truth A Memoir you will understand my painful journey, and the struggles of my mother. My story is written through the eyes of a child, and speaks from the child’s perspective of abuse. This can be a choppy, clouded view, but one that is pertinent if you want to understand the true depths of a “child’s pain”.

I wrote my story to raise awareness for child abuse/safety and mental health struggles.   My second book that I am working on now is called “The Book of Joann” and this will showcase my mothers’ journey from childhood, and throughout her whole life.   I will share her personal struggles and how it affected our relationship as mother and daughter. I plan on using my mother’s story to further educate people on the reality of mental illness.

I hope you continue to follow along with me as we take this journey together, educating and raising awareness.

Look around you right now – what do you see?    There may be someone sitting right next to you struggling tremendously inside his/her mind and you do not even know it.

TIME TO BREAK THE SILENCE ONCE AND FOR ALL.

Embrace the Journey and God Bless,

Lisa Zarcone

MA National Ambassador for NAASCA (National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse)

Author/Child & Mental Health Advocate/Public Speaker/Blogger/Inspirationalist

 2021 MA Heroine Award - MA Commission on the Status of Women

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